A cancer diagnosis is a fight with our own emotions more than the disease. We often end up getting angry at little things or at ourselves. But our anger at such times is a very common response, and it is our body’s way of processing shock or uncertainty.

Why do we feel angry?

We often get angry when things go out of our control. Cancer interrupts our lives and affects our normal routine, career, and future. It’s the uncertainty about the treatment and frustration from the medications and strict medical plans that add up to our anger. All of the emotional and physical chaos is what leads us to our anger. 

Hidden emotions behind anger

treatment, but we easily get angry during our treatment and rarely try to understand the real reason that is causing it.

• Anxiety about treatment and constant worry about outcome or finances cause more tension.
• Helplessness feels like you are out of control, which leads to more frustration.
• Strong medications and therapies also add more strain that comes out as anger.

Recognizing these emotions can help you understand your anger.

How does anger show up?

Our anger after cancer is never loud or in a visible form of rage. It may show up in the form of irritation over little things. We may isolate ourselves or even avoid conversations with loved ones when they are trying to help us. Sometimes, we may get angry with our care teams. All of our reactions are emotional loads that we carry during our vulnerable times, and it is not our mental flaw.

Ways to calm down

Anger is an emotional reaction to our cancer treatment, and it must never be suppressed. We just need a safe place to release our anger. It feels lighter when you communicate your emotions with someone you trust. Counselling or therapy can also offer you a safe place to express yourself without feeling judged. Also, talking to people in support groups with similar experiences can make you feel that you are not alone.

Regulating anger gently

Our anger after cancer is not weakness. It is just the way our body responds when our emotions are in motion. By staying aware and acknowledging our anger, healing gets easier and gentler.