Coping with Someone who has Cancer

It can be devastating to learn that a loved one has cancer. You may experience sadness, fear, or uncertainty about what to say or do. That is quite typical. The most crucial thing is to support them in a way that works for you both.

Respect Their Privacy

If you are asked about someone's cancer diagnosis, just respond, "It's not my place to share; please ask them directly." If someone tells you they have cancer, don't tell anyone else unless they say it's okay to tell others. Never share their news without permission, as they should control who knows and when.

How to Feel Less Awkward Around Them

Feeling bad about being well or not knowing what to say is common. Try providing help to them rather than avoiding them. Asking "How can I help ?" can have a significant impact. It's acceptable to feel anxious about cancer because it's a difficult subject. In fact, being open and honest about your emotions helps facilitate interactions.

What if they stop treatment?

Sometimes, people with cancer may refuse or stop treatment. This can be hard to accept, but it’s their choice. You can encourage them to talk to their doctors about their options, but ultimately, respect their decision. Continue supporting them no matter what they choose.

Facing the Final Stages

If your loved one talks about dying, listen without trying to fix things. It’s okay to say, “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you.” You don't have to know everything ; simply being there means more than you may realise. 

Take Care of Yourself Too

Supporting someone with cancer can be emotionally draining. It’s important to acknowledge your own feelings and seek support when needed. Whether through therapy, support groups, or talking to a trusted friend, taking care of your mental health ensures you can be there for your loved one without burning out.

Supporting someone with cancer doesn't mean saying the ideal thing ; it's about showing up, listening, and respecting their journey. Your care and presence can help them get through a difficult time.